I know that all of us have been scared, at one point or the other… That’s OK. It’s normal that from time to time we find ourselves in a situation that is unknown to us and that, for the time being, we don’t know how to handle. Believe me, that’s great, because you’re living!
Think about those people who say that they never feel scared. From my point of view they’ve set themselves in the comfort zone so deep that they don’t have any new experiences, they don’t grow. And believe me – they are more scared than us who face the fear directly. They fear the fear. And what kind of living is that? Would you rather live and face the uncertainty or live in a safe bubble?
How do you deal with fear?
I’m not going to lie. Many times I’ve been put in situations that my body reacts like it’s going to blow up at any point. Don’t get me started with my mind. Complete chaos! Sometimes the words ‘It’s going to be OK’ – just don’t work. The mind is focused too much on the emotion, that no rational explanation works. So, what to do in that moment?
1- I cry.
Seriously, CRY! Not because you’re weak, or incapable, or …I don’t know what kind of self destructive though comes to your mind. Ignore it! Cry! Let it out, don’t hold it in. Holding it in will many times create an even bigger problem.
2 – I write the heavy thoughts.
Write EVERYTHING! If your mind says ‘Oh’-write it down. If the next thought is ‘ Yes’ – write it. Trust me. It doesn’t have to make any sense! Your mind is in chaos! Sense is not there! And that’s OK. Sometimes, we need to let the chaos out in order to understand the meaning. Sometimes we need to get everything out of the messy closet in order to put everything back where it belongs. Don’t be afraid of your messy closet – don’t be afraid of your mind – don’t be afraid of yourself!
Sometimes…you are NOT OK…and that’s, believe it or not…TOTALLY OK. 🙂
I would really like to hear you opinion on this topic. So, please don’t be shy in letting your thoughts out. You can comment in the comment section below, or you can message me privately via firstname.lastname@example.org
I’m looking forward to hearing from you. 🙂